Step 1: Admit You Need Help

Main Idea

Understand and accept that you have lost control over your use of alcohol and drugs, and recognize that lasting change requires support, new tools, and daily action—not just willpower.

1. Recognize the Problem

Reflect honestly on how alcohol or drugs have harmed your life—relationships, health, work, and mental health. Write down the real consequences you've faced.

2. Break the Illusion of Control

Admit that \"managing it on your own\" hasn’t worked. Notice patterns like promising to stop and relapsing. Recognize that addiction is a cycle you can't break by sheer will.

3. Accept That Willpower Alone Isn’t Enough

Understand that wanting to quit isn’t enough. Recovery demands a support system, practical changes, and new habits to replace old ones.

4. Identify the Need for Support

Know that lasting recovery is stronger when shared with others. Finding help isn’t a weakness—it's a strength that leads to success.

5. Commit to Action

Say it aloud or write it down: \"I need help to get clean and stay sober.\" Taking this small but powerful action marks the true beginning of your journey to sobriety.

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