Step 6: Be Honest with Yourself

Main Idea

Recovery requires brutal honesty. Excuses, denial, and blame keep you trapped in old patterns. Freedom comes when you tell yourself the full truth—about your past actions, your current emotions, and your future goals.

1. Keep a Daily Honesty Journal

Write one short, honest reflection each day about your choices, feelings, wins, and mistakes. Don’t judge—just observe and record.

2. Own Your Slip-Ups Immediately

If you make a mistake, acknowledge it quickly. Don't hide, minimize, or rationalize. Mistakes are opportunities for learning, not shame.

3. Separate Facts from Feelings

Recognize the difference between how you feel and what’s objectively true. Feelings are real, but they don’t always reflect reality.

4. Challenge Excuses

When you catch yourself making excuses, pause and reframe. Ask: \"Is this the full truth?\" Hold yourself to higher standards.

5. Celebrate Honest Wins

Notice when you choose honesty over comfort. Give yourself credit for facing difficult truths—you’re building true strength, not just survival.

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