Step 4: Commit to Staying Clean

Main Idea

Real change begins with a firm, personal decision. Staying sober isn’t something that happens by accident. It’s a daily, conscious choice made by you, for you, without needing to appeal to faith or belief in a higher power.

1. Make a Personal Pledge

Say it out loud, write it down, or record yourself: \"I commit to living free from alcohol and drugs.\" Make the pledge real and personal.

2. Set Clear Rules for Yourself

Decide today that no matter what happens—good days, bad days, holidays, stress—you will not drink or use drugs. Zero exceptions. Zero negotiations.

3. Prepare for Challenges

Understand that cravings, emotions, and temptation will happen. Committing to sobriety means preparing in advance for tough moments without making excuses.

4. Remind Yourself Daily

Each morning, take 30 seconds to affirm your commitment: \"Today, I choose to stay clean.\" Small daily reminders strengthen big long-term change.

5. Stay Patient and Persistent

Commitment doesn’t mean perfection. If you stumble, recommit immediately without shame. Staying clean is a lifetime practice, not a one-time promise.

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